It is not a secret in today’s society that, we as Americans, live in is not so kind when it comes to how our children are growing up. However, I do have some good news for you. Teenage love is not the end of the world.
What exactly do I mean when I say teenage love is not the end of the world? Well, that is a great question. I want you to look back in history, maybe even talk to your grandparents about how the good old days used to be. I think you will find that most of their parents, uncles and aunts, sisters and brothers, cousins, and friends all were married and had children at the young age of 12 or 13.
Now, I am not saying we should start marrying our children off at this young age in today’s world. However, what I am trying to stress is the fact that teenager still has feelings and some know exactly what they want in life. A small percent will marry their high school sweetheart and live happily ever after. Others will fall in that teenage love and that love will slowly disappear.
So, teenager if you truly think you are in love then I suggest waiting before you decide to do anything life-changing like having sex, or if you do decide to have sex then do it smartly and use protection because more than likely this love will soon pass and you do not want to put yourself in a possession where you are stuck with a person for the rest of your life. Once you have a child you are connected to that other person for as long as your child is alive. Just be smart.
If you are a teenager’s parent let me give you some advice. Do not shelter your child to the point that you do not allow them to spread their own wings. Trust your teenager to make the right decision until they break that trust. Teenagers will fall in and out of love it is a fact. They are starting to have all these different feelings within their body and they do not know how to properly handle it. Again, remember that not so long ago 12 and 13-year-olds were getting married and starting a family of their own.
We make a big deal about teenage pregnancy today, but the reality is it is not the end of the world. We do not give our teenagers enough credit. Think about it again if our grandparents could basically raise a family by the time they hit their 30’s then it is possible that teenagers today can do the same.
We want our babies to stay our babies. We do not want them to grow up. We hold on to them for as long as we can which in some ways holds them back. It does not allow them to meet their full potential.
Many times, we do not allow our kids to grow up until they graduate from high school because the world we live in today is not so kind or at least that is what we tell ourselves. The reality is this world is no worse off than it was 50 years ago or even 100 years ago. The difference my friends is the media is at its full force. They only want to cover the negativity of this world and we buy into it.
Allow your teenager to spread their wings while they are still with you so you can help guide them because otherwise how are they supposed to join into society when they go off to college or start a career?
It is like we are throwing our children out to a pack of hungry wolves and they are getting eaten alive. Do you really want to throw your child out to a pack of wolves? I know I do not want to throw mine out there to a pack of wolves. I want them to spread their wings, I want them to find out how things work in the world while I can still help guide them, and no I do not want them to go out and have sex or get a girl pregnant but if they do then I will be right here to help guide them in the right direction.
We are too scared of teenage love. We are so afraid of what our kids might do that we track them on their cell phones so we know where they are at all times. But let me ask you a question: how would you have felt if your parents tracked your every move? You would have felt like they did not trust you am I right?
Let me ask you another question, do you think you would have turned out the way you are today if your parents did not allow you to grow during your teenage years? Of course, you would not have.
So, stop being afraid of teenage love. Talk to your kids. Trust your kids until there is no reason to trust them. Now, this does not mean allow them to go to their boyfriend or girlfriend’s house and spend the night, but it does mean allowing them to go out with each other. Let them go to the movies, go to the park for a walk, or just go get ice cream. Reality is teenage love is not the end of the world.
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